Tuesday, November 29, 2011

From One Day To Another

A lot has happened since last weekend. We had a great time in Las Vegas with Marco's sisters Moshura's Sister,Leezy, Momma M , Salt N Pepper and Medicated Man. But all the fun came to a stop and we had to come come early because Marco started to have pain on his right side followed by shortness of breath. We came home and Larry the hospice nurse came soon after we arrived from Vegas. He ordered an oxygen machine to see if it would help him breathe better.

Well Thanksgiving Day Marco was feeling good and he decided to BBQ his famous turkey and roasted another while my mom made hers in the oven. They all came out perfect and delish...not to mention all the side.

Last night, Marco had a bad night with fever and severe pain it would take his breath away. He could hardly speak 2 to 3 words when he was trying to catch his breath. He started to take his medication every four hours as directed on the bottle. His fever kept spiking up but didn't seem to be going down. The pain reach 9-10 level (tear point).

Finally, this morning we called Larry and he rushed over. After talking with him he ordered a bed for Marco and changed his medication. The pain just seems to take his breath away and there is nothing I can do. This afternoon he started to take his new medication and it seemed to work a little but tonight the fevers have been spiking up again highest tonight 103.5. Had him jump into the shower to try to bring it down so will see how the night goes.

Marco says he feels something going on in his lung. We all just hope that the pain is under control and it will make everything okay.

I made a promise to Marco that if at anytime it was getting rough for him...with pain, breathing that I would let everyone know that there would be no visiting. Having to talk, when he has to catch his breath is not easy to see, so I will not be putting him through that. I am asking that all visit be postponed till further notice. I would expect everyone to understand. Thank you in advance.

Monday, November 14, 2011

Celebrated Our 19th Anniversary

Marco and I have known each other for 32 years and have been married for 19. Just seems like yesterday we were saying I DO! We have learned to appreciate each other and literally enjoy what we have, one day at a time. We have something special and we treasure that always.

I was an amazing weekend. We arrived at the gorgeous Beverly Hills Montage Hotel. The room was so beautiful, the bed had rose pedals sprinkled. The view was great from the room overlooking Canyon Drive. Soon after we were surprised by the strawberry arrangement above the most yummiest strawberries ever! Even Marco was tearing these things up.

Thank you Mari and Vivianna for making this a memorable 19th Anniversary, without you two this wouldn't be in our reach.

Marco was able to take some pictures of us before going out to dinner to the Blue Plate Oysterette in Santa Monica were Vivianna works. The food there is amazing, the flavors are just so savory. We loved everything there. Everyone was just so nice.

Happy 19th Anniversary ................you are my friend, my best friend..........my life..........................
I LOVE YOU,with all my HEART!

Saturday, November 5, 2011


Marco is now enrolled in hospice care as of Friday. By no means does this say that something is going on now...this just states that he is now admitted to their services and care when needed. Marco so far is going good, he still has pain in his left side due to his previous surgergies and has slight pressure in his head from his brain surgery done in Sept. All is under control so far with his regular medication. Having to leave COH is a bitter sweet feeling, it has been our home far away from home when ever Marco needed treatment. We are so thankful to everyone there that is forsure.

We had a great surprise by Leezy who drove her ass all the way up here to visit. We knew you could do it! Glad to see you this weekend, we had a nice time. Abuelita just looked like she needed a beer or two after they arrived but overall she said it was a good drive.

We would like to thank everyone for all your well wishes and for being supportive. We truly appreciate everyone of you. WE LOVE YOU ALL!!!

Thursday, November 3, 2011

Cancer | Palliative Care

Cancer Palliative Care
What is palliative care?
Palliative care is designed to help a person have the best possible quality of life as his or her cancer progresses. The focus of palliative care is not on dying or trying to find a cure. Instead the focus is on living each remaining day as fully as possible.

The following are the main goals of palliative care:
To relieve pain and other symptoms
To help improve emotional, mental and spiritual well-being
To support the family members of the person who has cancer during his or her illness and after his or her death

Palliative care involves a partnership between the person who has cancer, his or her family and friends, and the members of the health care team. This team may include the services of a doctor, nurse, social worker, counselor and spiritual advisor.

Where is palliative care provided?
Palliative care can be provided at home or in a hospital or hospice facility. It may be possible to receive care at home for a while and then move into a hospital or hospice facility as the cancer progresses. If a person prefers to receive care at home, family members may want to ask the doctor for information on local support programs.

How can palliative care relieve pain and other symptoms?
As a person's cancer advances, he or she may experience a number of symptoms. These symptoms may include pain, loss of appetite, fatigue, weakness, weight loss, constipation, trouble breathing, confusion, nausea, vomiting, cough and a dry or sore throat. All of these symptoms can be managed with appropriate treatment. A person who has cancer shouldn't try to "be strong" and tolerate pain or other symptoms. This can have a negative effect on the person's physical and emotional state. A person who has cancer should tell the doctor about any symptoms he or she is having.

Pain is one of the most common symptoms experienced by people who have cancer. Even if it is severe, the pain can almost always be controlled with medicine. Each person responds to pain differently. The doctor will create a pain management plan that meets the person's needs. Pain medicines can be given by mouth (liquid or pill) or through the rectum (suppository). They can also be given through the skin (transdermal patch) or injected into the skin, a muscle or a vein. The caregiver should know that chronic (ongoing) pain needs to be treated on a regular schedule. It is important not to wait until the person feels pain before giving the next dose, even if this means waking him or her up in the middle of the night.

For some people, the doctor may prescribe an opioid medicine, such as morphine or codeine, to relieve pain. Opioid pain medicines often cause constipation (difficulty having bowel movements), so the person who has cancer may also need to take another medicine on a regular basis to prevent this common side effect.

It may take several tries for the doctor to find the most effective way to ease pain symptoms. The person in pain shouldn't feel discouraged if a particular approach doesn't work. The doctor needs to know about the person's preferences for how pain symptoms are managed. Helping to direct the course of his or her care may help the person who has cancer feel more in control of the situation.

How can a person who has cancer prepare to face the end of life?
Palliative care offers the opportunity to find peace of mind by facing feelings and beliefs about life and death. Each person must find meaning in his or her own way, at his or her own pace. Some people find comfort in talking with a close friend, family member, spiritual advisor, counselor or support group about their feelings.

How will family members react to palliative care?
As the death of a loved one grows near, each family member will react differently. It is common to experience a range of emotions, such as anger, shock, anxiety and helplessness. There is no single "right way" to deal with this situation. Family members should try to accept one another's different responses and feelings. Also, they should keep in mind that emotions don't follow a time schedule. Just because one person is ready to move on to the next stage of grieving doesn't mean everyone else is. As part of palliative care, it's important for family members to make the most of the time they have with their loved one rather than focusing on his or her death.

What else should a person do when preparing to face the end of life?
Palliative care offers an opportunity to make practical preparations for death. This can be a very difficult process. However, dealing with these matters in advance can reduce the financial, legal and emotional problems that a person's family and friends will face after his or her death. It also gives the person who has cancer some control over his or her situation. For example, preparing a will allows a person to decide how his or her possessions are divided. During this time, the person who has cancer may want to organize any records, documents and instructions that family members will need after his or her death.

A person who is facing the end of life may want to make his or her wishes regarding a funeral or memorial service known. If these preferences are discussed with family members, the funeral or memorial service can be a very personal reflection of the person's life and how he or she wants to be remembered. Careful planning can also reduce some of the stress that family members experience after their loved one's death.

Written by familydoctor.org editorial staff
Reviewed/Updated: 09/10Created: 06/02